It was one of those days when the kids just seemed to try my patience at every corner. My niceties were gone. At one point I realized that my short temper had hurt Esther’s feelings. Double mom-fail.
It was a nice day outside, so for a change in scenery, I decided to have us all go on a walk. I apologized to Esther and said I should be less… I couldn’t find the word (because none of them should be said in front of her). So I thought, I’ll have her fill in the blank and see what she thinks.
Esther, what should mommy be less of? “I wish you were more kind.” Punch to the gut. Her simplicity registered so deeply in my heart. I had been trying so hard to be more graceful, more kind and more patient but nothing seemed to change the way I reacted… I needed to change ME.
None of the parenting resources spoke to the anger always simmering beneath the surface. Nothing changed the scowl on my face. Which is strange that it was even there because I really do love every part of being a mom. I didn’t need another resource on how to connect with my kids or change their behavior. I needed one to dig deep down and talk about me and why I react the way I do to daily life. Anyone resonate?
Apparently two women named Amber and Wendy did and wrote a book about it. I began to ask God for resources I needed. A few days later a friend said she found a at a garage sale two time zones away… and she was sending it to me. Praise God.
It’s called Triggers and it’s the best thing that ever happened to me. It’s about what triggers our angry reactions (things inside us and things our families do) and how to replace our angry responses with gentle, Biblical responses. This book finally addressed why we react the way we do and how to mature into all God intended for us as parents. So practical. A saving grace really.
It’s in the form of a daily devotion and it is written for moms. I so highly recommend this book. I’m nearly finished with it and I have seen drastic change in my parenting and my relationships with my kids. Even Brian has noticed the change. Once I finish the book I’ll read it over again two more times. I want to get it deep within my spirit.
I’m sure I will still make mistakes and get mad. But never again will I hear my precious girl tell me that she wishes I was more kind.
Pray for them
Father, keep (Name’s) heart pure from bitterness. “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor be put away from [Name], along with all malice.” I pray (Name) would instead “be kind to [others], tenderhearted, forgiving [others], as God in Christ forgave [him/her].” In the name of Jesus I pray, amen. – Ephesians 4:31-32
Book Review: Pelican Point
Recently I finished Pelican Point a book authored by Irene Hannon, whose works have won the Rita Award three times and is known for writing over fifty romantic suspense novels. This was the first of her books for me to read and based on the reviews and her credentials my expectations were high.
Unfortunately I was bored through most of this book. The characters had little depth and there was very little shared background on each of them. The story had a good backbone to it but there just wasn’t much to the characters except their thoughts…
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