We Do Family Different: Beating the Clock

Is there anything more earthly than time? Establishing a family foundation that endures is important since the framework of our lives is Time. Time is the most finite thing in life. While time can be utilized well, it cannot be stretched or multiplied. It is what it is and we must learn to live within its limitations. It is too easy to become lost in the day to day losing sight of that which binds. Before Jesus went to Heaven his final recorded prayer revealed our deep need for unity and love for each other. He knew the distractions of life can take root among members of a family, even His.

Without doubt, one of the largest obstacles to doing family God’s way is how we utilize His gift of time. Work, school, technology, sports, extracurricular activities, television and movies are just some of the pursuits families engage in today. Some of these activities are required for survival while others fill in the rest. The key to finding balance is to remember God has not called us to withdraw from the world we live in, but to shift the focus of our pursuits from temporary to eternal.

Read Psalm 37:23-24, Proverbs 16:9

Here’s a fun activity! In the space provided make a list of your family’s weekly activities and pursuits. Write an approximate amount of time spent on each activity. Begin with the activities that consume the most of your family’s week.  Once you have a better grasp on where your time is going, submit it to the Lord and ask Him about any adjustments you need to make.

Family Time Chart

 i.e. Work   

Psalms 37:23, John 17:15

Father, I lift up our family to you and submit our daily activities to you. Let our steps be “established by the LORD, [as we] delight in [Your] way.” Help me raise them up in You. “I do not ask that you take [us] out of the world, but that you keep [our family] from the evil one.” Do not let us be consumed with the pursuits of this world, just as Christ was “not of the world.” Rather, I ask you to “sanctify [our family] in the truth; your word is truth,” in Jesus’ name, Amen.

Time? What Time?


Some have wondered where the time for marriage fits into our picture. Between the exhaustion, the cries, the bottles and the, “Mommy, I have to go potty!” there are few moments left for husband and wife time. Intimacy is a valuable piece of our puzzle. Brian and I have found that time spent together is the foundation for our marriage and we place enough value on it to protect it.

Once the kids are all in bed (by 7:30) we are ready for the slow exhale that comes with a cup of coffee and a conversation. We are also date schedulers. A date once every two weeks is a must unless things get crazy. Then we bump it up to once a week. We need to be on the same page and life gets rough if we are pulling in different directions.

Brian and I see the marriage and the family as two of the important pillars in our life and we prioritize them over tasks and to-do lists.

Intimacy in marriage is vital. It brings into sync our hearts and minds which is required for the smooth running of our home. When we begin to get frustrated with each other it is an indication that we have neglected “us” and that we need to re-evaluate our time.

When our agendas align it creates structure for the kids and an environment of peace and productivity with time for relaxation and fun. Someone once told me, “It doesn’t matter how busy you are, you always make time for the things you prioritize.” Unfortunately time is finite and no one knows this better than parents. But just as a jar holds more when the big rocks are put in before the sand, so our life holds more when we give the most important things priority and allow the rest to fill in the cracks.